It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of problems that humanity is staring down the barrell of. Climate change, political unrest, social inequality, and the pandemic are just a few examples of the issues that can make us feel anxious and helpless. But as overwhelming as these issues may seem, we have the power to take purposeful action to make a difference. Let me share three simple steps that can help you move from anxiety to purposeful action.

Step 1: Face the Fear

The first step to taking action is to face our fears. Fear can paralyze us and keep us from taking action. Otherwise known as analysis paralysis, it can make us feel like we’re not good enough, that we don’t have the skills or resources to make a difference. But the truth is that everyone experiences fear, and the most successful people are the ones who learn to face and overcome it.

Start by taking small steps towards your goal, something manageable and build up from there. Another strategy is to focus on the positive outcomes of taking action. Vision in your mind what will happen if you succeed? What kind of impact can you have on the world? By focusing on the positive, you can start to shift your mindset from one of fear to one of purposeful action.

Step 2: Awareness & Release

The second step is to become aware of our emotions and learn to let them go. Emotions can be powerful drivers of our behaviour, but they can also be stumbling blocks that keep us from taking action. We often try to numb negative emotions, but the truth is that we can’t selectively numb them. If we try to push down negative emotions, they’ll inevitably come back up and hold us back.

One way to become aware of our emotions is to practice mindfulness. This can involve techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or simply taking a few moments to check in with ourselves. When we become more aware of our emotions, we can start to let them go. We can explore the meaning behind our emotions and release them in a healthy way. This process can be challenging, but it’s essential to taking purposeful action.

Step 3: Shift the Narrative

The third simple step is to shift our narrative from one of helplessness to one of empowered action. We often feel like we can’t make a difference in the world, but the truth is that we have more power than we realize. We may not be able to control outside circumstances, but we can choose how we respond to them. We can choose to rewrite our narrative and see the world in a different way. After all the world and all the rules in it or made up by someone no smarter than you.

Shifting our narrative is to find peace with the idea that life is likely to be 50% unpleasant experiences / 50% pleasant experiences. By accepting this, we can see the polarity in everything and recognize that where there is good there’s bad and vice versa. This can help us find a sense of purpose and meaning in our actions.

Finally, we can step up and take empowered actions that feel purposeful and meaningful. By being confident in our own resilience and humanity’s resilience, we can become part of the solution. We can take part in the contagious change that’s happening in the world, starting with ourselves. This could mean volunteering, donating to a cause, or simply spreading positivity and kindness in our daily interactions. Whatever actions we choose, they can make a difference.

I’m under no disillusions that taking action can be challenging and require courage, especially when we’re facing complex and overwhelming problems. But by facing our fears, becoming aware of our emotions, shifting our narrative, and stepping up to take purposeful action, we can make a difference in the world. It all starts with taking that first step.

Pessimistic thoughts can often invade our minds, leaving us feeling stuck, disempowered, and hopeless. However, we actually have the power to reframe our negative thoughts, release bottled-up resentment, and choose a new empowering story, if we choose to. Through my training as a coach, teamed with my knowledge from psychology, I have come to identify three tools for stopping pessimistic thoughts in their tracks.

Lighting the Shadows

The first tool to stop pessimistic thoughts is awareness – simply to become aware of them. It is important to explore where the pessimistic thought or resentment comes from, what it truly relates to, and how it shows up in our life. Identify whether it is present in just one area of our life or more, and under which circumstances it gets triggered. Accepting that you can’t numb negative feelings selectively will free yo to become aware of their reach. You can’t get truly happy until you feel the pain too. Anything we try to keep under the surface will always blow up to the surface at some point. Awareness is key to letting it go.

Some of the tools I use to help with this step: Spiral of life, values elicitation, pillars of life, positivity resonance assessment, Power Types profile, and trigger tracking are useful tools to increase self-awareness and identify the root cause of negative emotions.

Best Life Story

The second tool to stop pessimistic thoughts is to explore the fundamental questions at the core of everything we do and everything we are. This will expand our perspective and resilience, opening up new possibilities. We need to explore the purpose of adversity and find a story that feels more empowering. It’s time to rewrite a more constructive story, a story of responsibility and choice.

Some of the tools I use to help with this step: Positive reframing, powerful stories, VIA strengths, Seligman’s PERMA model, interventions to increase Positive Emotions & Positivity Resonance, gratitude, journaling, and research on life and work meaning are useful tools for exploring the purpose of adversity and reframing our story.

Love Thyself

The third tool to stop pessimistic thoughts is to adopt a new way of treating ourselves. The inner critic has a function for our safety but needs to be put in its right place. We need to explore the narrative about ourselves, challenge the destructive bits, and adopt a new way of treating ourselves. Love does not come from external validation or merging with others. It first has to come from an inner unconditional love and radical acceptance, regardless of whatever goes on outside of us.

Some of the tools I use to help with this step: Balance Mother & Lover Power Types, Power Type Release Meditation, Self-Parenting, and Queen Power Type are useful tools to adopt a new way of treating ourselves and become the Queen of Boundaries.

Pessimistic thoughts can leave us feeling stuck, disempowered, and hopeless. However, we have the power to reframe our negative thoughts, release bottled-up resentment, and choose a new empowering story. To use my tools mentioned reach out for a call and stop pessimistic thoughts in their tracks, take courageous action, and make progress towards living our best life.