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In the last three years, I have been discovering and diving into the scientific research on consciousness and life after death. Several things surprise me enormously: (1) there is a large amount of scientific evidence in favor of the afterlife and ‘paranormal’ activities related to it, (2) it is as rigorously tested as any other scientific field (if not more, due to the scrutiny it provokes), (3) it is not well-known or publicized because (4) skeptics in the scientific field are very loud and yet largely uninformed (or even unwilling to look at the data – which goes against every principle of science!). As I have come to realize, this topic is so intimate, so fundamental to our personal beliefs and our reasons for existence, it tends to be taboo and is often irrationally shut down.

My purpose with this post is to stimulate your curiosity, and in no way to provide the ultimate proof or pretend to be an expert in the field. I have wondered my entire life about life’s meaning, spirituality and religions, about why we are here, what is the point of suffering, and how to hold on to life when death is inevitable (our own death, and that of our loved ones), is there really some God when there is all this inhumane turmoil around the world? or if there isn’t, is life just a temporary coincidence on a random planet? Life can be quite gloomy and anxiety-provoking when you wrestle with these big existential questions. This is something I talked about in my previous post. If I had known there was so much mind-blowing research, and I didn’t need to rely on organized religions or woo-woo theories, searching for my life’s meaning would have been an easier enterprise. But maybe I was meant to go through those struggles to, then, be able to help others with the same.

This post is going to be a bit special, as I will provide many and mostly citations from renowned scientists, extracted from (or referencing) peer-reviewed scientific publications. The point is to show you this is not about personal opinions or beliefs, but sound material you should further explore for yourself (all links included). And of course, this is just a fraction of the research available, just some of the things I stumbled upon and found deeply thought-provoking. This is the entry door to a life-changing journey…

Bridge over a forest

The afterlife studied by parapsychology

Let’s discover what Etzel Cardeña has to say about parapsychology. But first, who is he? According to Wikipedia, he is “the Thorsen Professor of Psychology at Lund University, Sweden where he is Director of the Centre for Research on Consciousness and Anomalous Psychology (CERCAP). He has served as President of the Society of Psychological Hypnosis, and the Society for Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. He is the current editor of the Journal of Parapsychology. He has expressed views in favour of open scientific inquiry and the validity of some paranormal phenomena. The Parapsychological Association honored Cardena with the 2013 Charles Honorton Integrative Contributions Award.” More on him here.

Here are some extracts from his article “The Experimental Evidence for Parapsychological Phenomena: A Review”, published in 2018 by the American Psychologist.

“This article presents a comprehensive integration of current experimental evidence and theories about so-called parapsychological (psi) phenomena. Throughout history, people have reported events that seem to violate the common-sense view of space and time. Some psychologists have been at the forefront of investigating these phenomena with sophisticated research protocols and theory, while others have devoted much of their careers to criticizing the field.” (p.663)

“The evidence provides cumulative support for the reality of psi, which cannot be readily explained away by the quality of the studies, fraud, selective reporting, experimental or analytical incompetence, or other frequent criticisms. The evidence for psi is comparable to that for established phenomena in psychology and other disciplines, although there is no consensual understanding of them.” (p.663)

“An informed psi skeptic wrote, “Most psychologists could reasonably be described as uninformed skeptics—a minority could reasonably be described as prejudiced bigots—where the paranormal is concerned” (French, 2001, p. 7).” (p.663)

“Parapsychology can be defined as the study of purported psi phenomena using the scientific method, and the Parapsychological Association, the professional association of the field, has been an affiliate of the American Association for the Advancement of Sciences (the world’s largest general scientific society) since 1969.” (p.664)

“At its inception, psychology and parapsychology were not clearly distinct disciplines, and foundational figures of the former also supported the latter (Cardeña, 2015a; Sommer, 2013. They include Bekhterev, Hans Berger (inventor of the electroencephalogram), Binet, Fechner, Sigmund Freud, Luria, Ramón y Cajal, and American Psychological Association (APA) presidents William James and Gardner Murphy. More recently, faculty from top-ranked universities such as Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford, including a past APA president, endorsed continuing research on psi (Cardeña, 2014). Parapsychology has also contributed to methods and subject areas later integrated into psychology, among them the first use of randomization along with systematic use of masking procedures (Hacking, 1988); the first comprehensive use of meta-analysis, in 1940 (Gupta & Agrawal, 2012); study preregistration since 1976 (Johnson, 1976); and pioneering contributions to the psychology of hallucinations, eyewitness reports, and dissociative and hypnotic phenomena” (p.664)

psi research has initiated or developed rigorous procedural and analytical strategies that mainstream psychology adopted later, and psi research is more rigorous in, for instance, using masked protocols, than psychology in general and other fields (Watt & Nagtegaal, 2004). Also, psi research has changed its procedures in response to internal and external criticisms” (p.673)

 

So, hopefully, these extracts should give you a flavor of how serious and rigorous this domain is researched. Before going further, I want to introduce the Bigelow Institute for Consciousness Studies. “BICS was founded in June 2020 by aerospace entrepreneur Robert T. Bigelow to support research into both the survival of human consciousness after physical death and, based on data from such studies, the nature of the afterlife. […] One purpose of the BICS is to raise awareness among the public and within the scientific community of the importance and relevance of such an investigation. BICS hopes to provide a public service by drawing increasing attention to, and encouraging research into, this fundamental and timeless topic. We are seeking hard evidence “beyond a reasonable doubt” that takes us beyond religion or philosophy and provides a body of knowledge to be brought widely into the public arena that could be partially unifying in its impact on human awareness and culture.” I recommend you explore their website and check the impressive board of directors’ profiles (physician, molecular biologist, professor of philosophy, theoretical physicist, professor of statistics, professor of psychiatry).

BICS organized an essay contest in 2021 for scientists to participate: “One goal of the essay contest is to award contestants for writing papers that summarize the best evidence available for the survival of human consciousness after permanent bodily death.” Winners received large sums of prize money (in total, almost 2 million USD). 204 essays were submitted; it took 4 months for the judges to select the best ones. And importantly, several of these essays are available for free on the website (here and also here). These are accessible reads even if you are not an academic! Go read them, really! Some of the extracts below come from the top 4 winning essays.

Mirror in water

Near-Death Experiences

A near-death experience (NDE) can happen to people who are in life-threatening conditions, such as accidents, illness (e.g. in a coma), under full anesthesia, under cardiac arrest, etc. Not all people who have unfortunate life-threatening circumstances will experience an NDE, but a large amount do. These NDEs are sufficiently reported and give us glimpses of our consciousness being something separate from our brain and our body.

John C. Hagan, III, MD is an awarded ophthalmologist, medical researcher, and editor of Missouri Medicine medical journal and a medical textbook “The Science of Near-Death Experiences” (Missouri University Press, 2017). In his article in the Missouri Medicine journal, published in March-April 2015, titled “Near-Death Experiences: I Hope You Are Comfortable With Them By Now!”, he refers to several pieces of research. Here are some gems I found in this article:

The NDE typically includes many of the following: the mind leaving the body and travelling upward; passing from dark to a brilliant light often within a tunnel. The light which is often interpreted to be God or the Supreme Being is ineffable and transmits joy, peace, love, comfort. They meet with deceased loved ones, friends, relatives that welcome them. They have a life review in which they understand the meaning of their life and how they have lived it and how it affected others. They never wish to leave this unity with the light source of love. They return to our mortal life they say reluctantly to help those needing them on earth or sometimes involuntarily because “your time has not yet come.” Upon returning to their earthly body most live a more purposeful, love-filled life. Thereafter the fear of death is largely absent.

“Bruce Greyson, MD, Professor at the University of Virginia School of Medicine and a Co-Founder of the International Association of Near-Death Studies (IANDS) in November/December 2013 reviewed postulated scientific explanations of NDE including: expectancy, birth memories, altered blood gasses, REM intrusion, toxic and/or metabolic hallucinations, neurochemistry and neuroanatomy phenomena without finding a definitive explanation for NDE. In addition to the positive aspects during and after a NDE he was the first to point out “distressing NDEs” which are disturbing, even terrifying to those that experience them. He also noted that most people that have NDEs are mentally healthy and that NDEs must not be confused or equated with depersonalization, dissociation, post-traumatic stress disorder or pathologic conditions such as Charles-Bonnet Syndrome.”

“Dean Radin, PhD, one of the foremost experts in using evidence and laboratory-based science to study NDE, reported these conclusions in January/February 2014, “With one exception, NDEs may be interpreted as unusual forms of hallucinations associated with the injured or dying brain. The exception involves perceptions described from vantage points outside the body that are later confirmed to be correct and could not have been inferred. Over a century of laboratory studies have investigated whether it is possible in principle for the mind to transcend the physical boundaries of the brain. The cumulative experimental database strongly indicates that it can. It is not clear that this implies the mind is separate from the brain but it does suggest that a comprehensive explanation for NDEs will require revisions to present scientific assumptions about the brain-mind relationship”.” (Dean Radin was also a finalist in the Bigelow contest)

“Jeffrey Long, MD, a Louisiana radiation oncologist, established the nonprofit Near Death Experience Research Foundation for collection, international reporting, and study from NDE people worldwide. Please visit their website www.nderf.org to understand how universal and cross-cultural the NDE experience is. In the September/October 2014 issue, Long elaborates on nine lines of evidence that converge on the explanation that NDE cannot be scientifically explained at this time. Among the most impressive of these nine are factual reports of events that have occurred in the past, or did happen in the future, or that transpired during the person’s NDE that were physically remote and otherwise unknowable by the person. Other unaccountable events: totally blind individuals describing accurately vivid visual events during their resuscitation and also precise accounts from individuals that were having hypothermic surgery in which they had no pulse, no heart activity, no blood pressure and a flat EEG.” (Jeffrey Long is in the top 10 winners of the Bigelow contest)

“Eben Alexander, III, MD, former Harvard neurosurgeon, […] writes, “The truth is that the more we come to understand the physical workings of the brain, the more we realize it does not create consciousness at all. We are conscious in spite of our brain! The brain serves more as a reducing valve or filter, limiting pre-existing consciousness down to the trickle of the illusory ‘here-now’ in which we find ourselves in this physical realm.” (Eben Alexander had an NDE himself, which changed his entire perspective on everything, his book “Proof of Heaven” is a must-read.)

Purple and orange smoke on black background

 

Here is what Jeffrey Mishlove, PhD (winner of the Bigelow contest) and Pim Van Lommel, MD (2nd in the Bigelow contest) have to say about NDEs:

William James had an unusual ability to take the complex and make it simple. His theory – the brain is the filter, rather than the source of consciousness – is one of his powerful and easy to grasp ideas. At the same time there is substantial empirical research to reinforce this hypothesis. ” (Mishlove p.16)

“Pim van Lommel, a Dutch cardiologist and author of Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of Near-Death Experience, describes controlled studies involving patients who experienced cardiac arrest in hospitals. Five independent studies have been published involving 562 patients who survived cardiac arrest. Between 10% and 20% reported having a near-death experience. Van Lommel reports that neither physiological nor psychological factors can account for their experience. This is contrary to the careless opinions offered by scoffers. “We know, during cardiac arrest, there is no brain function left. So, we would expect no conscious experience at all during cardiac arrest”.” (Mishlove p.22-23)

Scientific research on NDE in survivors of cardiac arrest appears to provide evidence of a continuity of consciousness after physical death. Consciousness is eternal, and outside of space and time. Interestingly, across all times and in many cultures, people have been convinced that the essence of man, usually known as the soul, lives on after the death of the body.” (Van Lommel p.36)

 

Reincarnation

“The scientific studies on reincarnation have generally found that small children between the ages of two to four may spontaneously begin to speak about experiences they had in a previous life in many details, and usually with intense emotions and nightmares. The child nearly always describes his mostly violent death in a previous life. There have been many well-studied and quite convincing cases of reincarnation, even with birthmarks corresponding to burns, knife wounds, and other violent traumas that caused the death in a previous life. (Stevenson, 1997; Tucker, 2005)” (Van Lommel p.34)

“Ian Stevenson’s methodology: The University of Virginia, Department of Perceptual Studies, now has a database of over 2,500 individual cases in which young children report former life memories. In roughly 1,700 cases, the information led to the deceased previous person’s identification. We know these as solved cases.” (Mishlove p.33)

 

Child and her reflection on glass

Psychics & Mediums

Let’s talk about someone who has been doing a lot of research on psychics & mediums. “Dr. Julie Beischel is the Director of Research at the Windbridge Research Center. She received her PhD in Pharmacology and Toxicology with a minor in Microbiology and Immunology from the University of Arizona and uses her interdisciplinary training to apply the scientific method to controversial topics. For over 15 years, Dr. Beischel has worked full-time studying mediums: individuals who report experiencing communication with the deceased and who regularly, reliably, and on-demand report the specific resulting messages to the living. Her studies began with testing the accuracy and specificity of the information reported by mediums during phone readings performed under controlled, more than double-blind laboratory conditions that address alternative explanations for the source of their statements such as fraud, cueing, and overly general information. This protocol optimizes the research environment while also maximizing experimental controls. Dr. Beischel has also examined mediums’ psychology, physiology, business practices, demographics, and experiences and published peer-reviewed journal articles and anthology chapters discussing these and the potential therapeutic application of mediumship readings during bereavement.”

Dr. Beischel started out as a skeptic, provoked by a personal event with a medium. She couldn’t understand how this person could know such precise details. She decided to investigate in the lab this phenomenon, to “eliminate conventional explanations, including cold reading, rater bias, experimenter cueing, and fraud” (see one of her publications here). Her methodology and procedures are so strict, it is virtually impossible to deny the selected mediums’ abilities to connect ‘somehow’ with the afterlife and/or access the clients’ past and future life events. Psychic-medium Laura Lynne Jackson talks about the study protocols she went through, being studied by Dr. Beischel – it’s fascinating – I talk about it here. Dr. Beischel is also the fourth finalist in the Bigelow contest. She also shares a very interesting research selection on her website.

Here are some extracts from her Bigelow contest essay:
“Based on the science described here, this is what we know:

  1. Certain prescreened mediums can report accurate and specific information about the deceased under controlled laboratory conditions that address normal explanations for the source of the information they report.
  2. The anomalous source of that accurate information must involve psi.
  3. The two possibilities are that (a) they are communicating telepathically with the survived consciousnesses of deceased people (survival psi) or (b) they are using precognition, clairvoyance, or telepathy with the living to gather information about the deceased (somatic psi).
  4. Twenty laboratory-tested mediums and over 100 self-identified mediums have reported that survival psi and psychic readings for the living (the surrogate for the somatic psi theory) feel different. Extensive qualitative and statistically significant quantitative phenomenological research supports their claims.
  5. Quantitative findings from blinded readings performed by laboratory-tested mediums for deceased and living targets specifically demonstrated that, at the very least, love is experienced to a greater degree during mediumistic readings for the deceased compared to during psychic readings for the living.

Taken together, these facts provide the best available evidence for the survival of human consciousness after permanent bodily death. […] The most logical explanation for the collection of data described above is that people can survive the death of their bodies and can communicate with mediums.” (Beischel p.58-59)

“[…] near the end of the 20th century, at the request of Congress and the CIA, evaluations were commissioned to assess the validity of psychic functioning. The findings were reported by University of California statistician Jessica Utts and published in 1995 (and republished in 2018; 56). Utts’ findings were:
Using the standards applied to any other area of science, it is concluded that psychic functioning has been well established. The statistical results of the studies examined are far beyond what is expected by chance. Arguments that these results could be due to methodological flaws in the experiments are soundly refuted. (56, p. 118) Utts went on to suggest that, “There is little benefit in continuing experiments designed to offer proof, since there is little more to be offered to anyone who does not accept the current collection of data” (p. 119).” (Beischel p.34)

Two hands in the sun

A solid legal case

In his essay earning him 3rd place at the Bigelow contest, Dr. Leo Ruickbie compares the amount of evidence that would be required in the legal system to be convincing enough. You can read about him here.

“A common standard for deciding cases where the stakes are high – life after death would seem to qualify – is found in the legal system: it must be “beyond reasonable doubt.” The problem is, that like ‘extraordinary evidence,’ ‘reasonable doubt’ is a circular definition and law courts have conspicuously refused to define it.
In a rare attempt to make ‘reasonable doubt’ understandable to jurors, the Federal Judicial Center made the following instruction:
Proof beyond a reasonable doubt is proof that leaves you firmly convinced of the defendant’s guilt. There are very few things in this world that we know with absolute certainty, and in criminal cases the law does not require proof that overcomes every possible doubt.” (Ruickbie p.7)

“It has already been noted that the evidence for life after death would be sufficient to prove the case in a court of law. One of the earliest to do so was author John Vyvyan (1908–1975). Writing in 1966, he said “a jury might well be convinced of a life after death on the basis of these arguments.” Since then, researchers have amassed almost sixty years’ worth of additional evidence in every area concerned with life after death. If it were enough to convince a jury then, how much more so now?” (Ruickbie p.78)

Another interesting source of information comes from a retired lawyer and his wife psychologist who have been collecting evidence of the afterlife for over two decades on their website: “There is, without any doubt whatsoever, objective, repeatable, evidence for the existence of the afterlife. Retired lawyer Victor Zammit Ph.D states that the evidence collected would be accepted by the highest court in any civilized country.” Don’t just take his word for it, or mine, but dive into his thorough collection!

The argument put forward does not rely on one piece of evidence, or one case, so if one case is found in error it does not derail the overall argument. In fact, for each area of evidence considered, many other cases could be brought forward if needed. […] the amount of evidence is not the problem – the problem is why we do not believe it.” (Ruickbie p.77)

 

Consciousness & the brain

“A relationship clearly exists between the physical brain and the mind/self/consciousness (what makes you you). When the brain is injured or damaged, the mind functions differently. However, this does not prove that the cells and chemicals of the brain make mind. Correlation does not equal causation. Alternatively, mind may be like a signal and the brain like an antenna. Without the antenna, the signal can still exist. This non-materialist concept fits just fine with what is currently known about perception, psychology, basic physiology, biology, geology, astronomy, sociology, fundamental physics, quantum physics, and relativity.
Thinkers like William James and Aldous Huxley have conceptualized the mind as being interpreted, limited, funneled, regulated, transmitted, mediated, transformed, received, guided, or arbitrated by the brain. In the 1995 OMNI article “Supposing something different: Reconciling science and the afterlife,” astronomer David Darling explained, “The brain does not produce consciousness at all, any more than a television set creates the programs that appear on its screen”. Religious studies scholar Huston Smith used this engaging simile: “The brain breathes mind like the lungs breathe air”.” (Beischel p.6-7)

death is not the end

Final Thoughts & Implications

“The great Swiss psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung addressed what he considers civilization’s primary ailment in his book, Modern Man in Search of a Soul. He wrote: “As a physician, I am convinced that it is hygienic – if I may use the word – to discover in death a goal towards which one can strive; and that shrinking away from it is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose.”
We hide from our own deepest identity when we postulate that consciousness is extinguished with the death of the body – resulting in a severe gap in our capacity for self-knowledge.” (Mishlove p.96)

 

If you have been a skeptic about spirituality, soul/consciousness, if, for you, religions have been advertising only myths and legends… like it was for me… I hope the above will make you think twice, and possibly engage you on a quest to re-define what your existence means. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • If our consciousness doesn’t die with the death of our body, if we reincarnate, what is the purpose of our existence in this body, in this era, in this specific life? and are we living up to it?
  • If our loved ones who passed away are not entirely gone, how does it feel to know we have not lost them for eternity and that there could be ways to still communicate with them?
  • If death (of our body) is not the end of our existence, but merely of this life, if we just change shape in a way, what do we make of this life?

 

How will this knowledge transform what you value in your life?

For many people around the world, their spirituality is a given. It is passed down from their previous generations and their cultural context. They accept it, embody it, and they don’t question it: they just have faith. And then, there are also people whose spirituality is a question mark, a challenge, a mystery, or even an absent subject in their lives. Which one are you? I’ve been the latter, and I went from being an atheist to becoming rationally spiritual…

 

Exploring religions

To give you a bit of context: I come from Christian ancestors, born in a Christian (but laic) culture, one side of my family is (practicing) Catholic, and the other is (non-practicing) Protestant. I have been in the middle of this silent religious competition, with one side trying to integrate me into their church. During my adolescence, I explored Christianity from different angles, as this is what was available around me then. I had so many questions, and everything seemed too metaphoric, too dramatic, too complicated, too far out there, too old. I couldn’t adhere to any of these views, they didn’t speak to me. And believe me when I say I tried. I wanted that faith I could see others experiencing. I wanted to feel something bigger had my back, loved me no matter what, and that existence made sense. But it wouldn’t click.

 

Trauma didn’t make sense

foggy road and forestThe moment in my life I was the closest to faith (faking it until I would make it), I was praying every night. For others, for the world, praying selflessly at the age of 16. But trauma, deaths, and pain kept accumulating in my life. If there was a God, he suddenly took away my lighthouse, despite all my praying. He let all these horrible things happen to me, to the world. Why? And why wasn’t I receiving the signs I was asking for, the signs that would help me strengthen my faith? It felt like either God had betrayed and abandoned all of us, or this whole thing about God and religion was fake. And that’s when I decided or realized I wasn’t getting answers because there wasn’t anyone ‘up there’. I was angry and in the darkest pain. Life seemed so awful, too unfair, too unpredictable. What was the point of it all? Yet, there was a tiny glimmer of hope deep inside me, some thought that maybe there was more to life than all this pain, if only I could find the way out. Psychotherapy helped me get rid of my suicidal thoughts. But the dark cloud was never far for another decade.

 

Science: killer of faith

A big change happened when I started university in parallel to my full-time job. I studied for a Bachelor of Science in psychology. And this scientific degree changed my way of thinking and my perception of the world. It gave me an understanding of scientific rigor: you can demonstrate something’s existence when you can test it and replicate your findings multiple times. Well, of course, it’s not that simple… but anyway, that’s how my brain saw things then. My courses explored belief systems, cultural influences, cognitive biases, etc. It showed us that we believe what we want to believe, we tend to see and register only information that confirms what we think and want. It also talked about psychic abilities being mostly manipulations by clever people. Or homeopathy that had no scientific basis, other than a placebo effect.

All this reinforced my belief that humans are an anomaly in the universe, maybe not the only anomaly, but just a coincidence that could be explained by chemistry, physics, biology, and evolution. I was then decidedly an atheist. I didn’t believe there was a greater something, that ‘things happened for a reason’, that ‘something awaited us after death’. Instead, life felt increasingly meaningless, and something that would stop abruptly. The idea of losing someone became even more anxiety-provoking if there was no afterlife where to meet again. What was the point of life, what was the point of all the pain? I felt like I was a running headless chicken.

 

Parapsychology changed everything

I was at a weekend university workshop when I heard that my favorite psychology professor, Professor Frederick Toates, had organized a conference about ‘parapsychology’ in the meeting room next to ours. This is the branch of psychology studying (scientifically and rigorously) ‘paranormal’ psychological phenomena such as extrasensory perceptions. I couldn’t attend, but the participants, former university students, reported having goosebumps in this ‘out of this world’ conference. Most of the speakers were scientists in the field of parapsychology, and there was evidence of paranormal things. I thought ‘Hold on, my university courses were telling me it was all fake, how come they didn’t mention that some topics have scientific evidence?’ It stayed at that for a couple of years.

 

Rationally spiritual, Netflix docuseries Surviving death

Netflix poster for Surviving DeathIn January 2021, Prof. Toates posted a link on his Facebook group, encouraging us to watch the Netflix docuseries ‘Surviving death’, in which appeared one of the speakers from the parapsychology conference. I jumped on my TV and watched the 6 episodes like my life depended on it. And I am eternally grateful for Prof. Toates, as this changed everything for me! And I now recommend it to everyone, either skeptics like me or those already with some faith. This docuseries explores near-death experiences (NDEs), children remembering past lives (reincarnation), mediums and psychics, etc. It’s always through the lens of science (and also with the Netflix drama spin). Not all episodes affected me equally, the ones that have made a difference are the NDEs and reincarnations. Those are mind-boggling because scientific studies have shown that these experiences are true and demonstrate life beyond death. It means that our consciousness doesn’t die when our brain and body die. It lives beyond. There is an increasing amount of studies on these events and their meaning.

 

“Ultimately, we cannot avoid the conclusion that endless consciousness has always been and always will be, independently of the body. There is no beginning and there will never be an end to our consciousness. For this reason, we ought to seriously consider the possibility that death, like birth, may be a mere passing from one state of consciousness into another and that, during life, the body functions as an interface or place of resonance.”
Pim van Lommel, M.D., Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near-Death Experience (p.257)

 

Spiritual rabbit-hole

After watching this docuseries, I needed to explore more and connect all the dots. I read the wonderful book “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer. This book says that if you can observe your thoughts and emotions, you cannot ‘be’ those thoughts and emotions. You cannot be that body you observe, because you are the observer. We are absorbed by the objects and circumstances we observe as if we were watching TV and losing consciousness of ourselves. But if we look deep, behind the chaos in our mind, there is that consciousness, connected to everything. It’s always been there, and will always be there, thoughts or no thoughts. This consciousness goes back to what people seem to experience during NDEs or children with memories of past lives. This consciousness is not a part of our body or brain, it’s not even inside our brain! Instead, this consciousness is observing our brain and our body, and it’s timeless and immaterial.

 

I had come across these concepts before, as I had read other books from fascinating writers such as Eckhart Tolle, James Doty, etc. But these books were just interesting ideas, sometimes difficult to wrap my head around, and they wouldn’t connect with my real life. It felt like these concepts were from another planet, for people who were not like me. But suddenly, I could start connecting the dots and intellectualizing a sense of faith. Yes, it began as an intellectual thing, that was my gateway. And I believe that a lot of people may be like me. They have to see it to believe it.

 

“You’re not even a human being. You just happen to be watching one.”
Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul (p.37)

 

I also read the two books from Laura Lynne Jackson, one of the psychic mediums from the Netflix series. At first, that was the topic I had the most resistance with. But after reading her two books, I can no longer deny that some people have the capacity to see the past and future and to connect to the ‘Other Side’, as Jackson calls it. How do I know this? She was rigorously and scientifically tested. The story is captivating, go and read it! And if you need it, you can also read the research findings from the scientists – here. As I was reading her books, I asked (with a certain level of doubt) my deceased loved ones to send me very specific signs, as Jackson suggested. And these signs kept arriving, again and again, in a way that I couldn’t doubt or question. And they still do to this day!

 

The universe was speaking to me

And I was finally listening. I had so many questions, I kept telling ‘whoever out there’ (my loved ones on the Other Side, the universe, whatever it is) to keep sending clear and undeniable information and lessons. In the following months, I was recommended more books by strangers, the local TV channel did a two-part documentary on NDEs, and this topic popped up in all places and newspapers. One of these documentaries interviewed Pim van Lommel, a Dutch cardiologist. He had seen many patients on his operating table whose hearts stopped beating during surgery and yet had full consciousness of what was happening in that operating room at the very moment they were clinically dead. Van Lommel became curious and started research in NDEs. He wrote a thought-provoking and life-changing book on his findings, his hypothesis, and some explorations on the meaning of it all. Interestingly, he also included an analysis of several religions, texts from philosophers, and cultures. He noticed patterns and similarities in the conception of consciousness but also hints that the writers had likely experienced some form of NDE and/or other similarly enlightening situations.

“How is it possible for people to observe their own resuscitation from a position above their lifeless body? How can they have clear thoughts and retain their memories without a physical body? How is it possible for them to meet and recognize deceased relatives? How is it possible to experience a life review or a preview in mere minutes, as if time and distance do not exist in this other, unearthly realm?”
Pim van Lommel, M.D., Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near-Death Experience (p.17)

 

Signs from the universe

Of course, I was thinking “I am looking for it, so my brain is more attentive to it, it’s just a bias”. And maybe, that information was always just in front of me and I ignored it before. But the content was nonetheless undeniable. Everything started to make sense, and life got more meaning. And ever since, I feel things and people are magically planted on my path: books to read, podcasts to listen to, names of people I should look into, encouragements in the directions I’m taking, etc. I am feeling a big relief sigh from the universe “aahhh you’re finally getting it, keep going, you’re heading in the right direction”.

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Yes to rationally spiritual, no to religious

I see religions as man-made attempts at making sense of this ‘something bigger’. There are many common elements to all of them, but they are made of human interpretations. Religions also all include rules and laws on how to behave in society, which does not necessarily have much to do with spirituality, but rather population control. Many religions include forms of hierarchy and power, a separation between ‘us-believers-of-this-specific-religion’ and ‘them-believers-in-something-else-and-non-believers’, and instill fear and obedience. I struggle with these aspects of religion. To me, spirituality can be inspired by others’ thoughts and beliefs, but can’t and shouldn’t be something organized like an international corporation. This is of course just my own opinion, and I also understand how and why people adhere to religions. But religion is not my thing… spirituality is!

 

Since January 2021, I have delved deep into spirituality, reading parapsychology research and many books, listening to hundreds of podcasts, and discussing it with anyone curious. My spirituality has been growing ever since, slowly moving from an intellectual concept to something much more integrated and gut-based. And also, to be honest, it’s been fluctuating at times. When life throws fireballs at me, I sometimes question it all. And then, new understandings come forth. This is what I share in the chapter I wrote in this book. My spirituality has become a personal definition of why we are here, how to behave, what to learn, how to love, what comes before and after this life … It has opened the door to something much larger, to my soul and my intuition, and the infinite wisdom of Life. This understanding of our existence changes everything. And I’ve come to realize that my path to spirituality and the discoveries I’ve made are what I am called to share. As we adopt this perception of who we are and what we are here for, it reduces pain and enhances purpose and connection to others and life. And I can only wish that to all my fellow humans.

 

“Why are we here? To learn. To give and receive love. To be the agents of positive change in the world. What happens when we die? We shed our bodies but our consciousness endures. What is our true purpose on this earth? To grow in love – and to help others do the same.”
Laura Lynne Jackson, The Light Between Us (p.210)

 

I will share more information on this, hoping it will spark something in you too.

 

What’s your relationship to spirituality?

London tower bridge

Here is the second part of my report on the 2024 World Happiness Summit, which took place in London UK, on 19-20 March 2024. If you missed the first part, read about Day 1 here.

In case you are wondering, the World Happiness Summit is anything but a toxic positivity festival. If you think worrying about happiness only belongs to the rich, self-centered, and/or superficial, read my two blog posts attentively. Our ability to attend such a conference in person indeed denotes a certain wealth and freedom, which many do not have access to. And I believe it is precisely because we have that power to attend events like this one, learn from experts in many different fields, and get inspired and connected, that we can then influence (in small or large ways) the world for the greater good. To advocate for those who can’t. In fact, the vast majority of attendees is committed to serving others, in being the change we wish to see in the world. Are you?

 

Key takeaways from Day 2

Grab a cup and buckle up, that’s a long and worthy one 😉 where I share some of my favorite takeaways…

 

Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener (Author of Positive Provocation, Researcher, Coach trainer at Positive Acorn)

Dr Biswas-DienerHis talk was something else, just like last year. He starts with a story and you wonder where he will take you. This year it was an invitation to appreciation and connoisseurship. Connoisseurship is a form of expertise, having a vocabulary and depth of knowledge allowing an appreciation of details; it requires an emotional experience. He illustrated his point by dissecting the clever cover of a comic book, the interpretation of an abstract painting and its forgery, and the details of courtroom illustrations (what is chosen to be depicted and what is purposefully left out).

“Learning is the seed to expertise”. Expertise allows us to appreciate the meaning of details, which in turn allows us to have “more vibrant and purposeful lives”.

 

Karen Guggenheim (Author of Cultivating Happiness, Founder/CEO WOHASU®, Board of Director World Wellbeing Movement)

Karen’s talk was about the ripples of WOHASU. It all started after the death of her husband in March 2013, when her world and her identity collapsed. Her children were her purpose, they were the fuel to keep her going. So she chose happiness and made it her mission to inspire others across the world. And so WOHASU was born.

Another ripple is her recent book “Cultivating Happiness: Overcome trauma and positively transform your life“, where she shares her transformative journey of post-traumatic growth.

Karen Guggenheim

This was followed by yet another ripple I am personally proud of… our book “The Happiness of Coaching: Inspiring Stories from the World’s Happiest Coaches” being mentioned on stage. This book is a ripple of last year’s WOHASU in Como, as 17 of us, coaches, met there for the first time. 17 women who choose and create happiness to support and empower others. Our personal stories have the common theme of how we chose happiness in the face of adversity, grief, hardship, illness, and many other difficult paths. And each of us was excited and grateful for this public recognition (thank you Karen and WOHASU Team!).

By the way, grab your paper or Kindle copy here! 😉

The Happiness of Coaching Book

 

Human Sustainability Panel: Troy Armour (Impact Entrepreneur Redefining the World’s GDP, CEO & Visionary at Junk Kouture The World’s First Sport for Creatives) & Heather White (Founder & CEO of OneGreenThing, Author, National Sustainability & Climate Leader, Eco-Anxiety Expert)

Jen Fisher, Human Sustainability Leader at Deloitte, moderated this panel. She started by reading this:

“Humans. We’re born dreamers. Doers. Problem-solvers. We imagine a better world and we make it happen. This is something only humans can do, and it starts with our own wellbeing. But the stark truth is, our lives are no longer sustainable, not just for our planet, but for our people. Climate anxiety. Inequity. Distrust. Burnout. These are humans problems, and they’re all connected. But they have a solution. It’s called Human Sustainability.

It means organizations and leaders taking responsibility, prioritizing people and moving forward with purpose. It means treating human outcomes as a measure of success, tracking progress and finding ways to improve. It means redesigning systems with equity in mind, making them sustainable for everyone, now and in the future.

As dreamers. Doers. Problem-solvers. We can see what a better world would look like. Now we need to come together to make it happen. Human Sustainability. A better future takes all of us.”

Junk Kouture: Competition winner who crocheted video cassettes

Junk Kouture: Competition winner who crocheted video cassettes

Troy Armour created Junk Kouture, which is a sustainable fashion competition, that is “open to 12-19 year-olds and challenges young people to design, upcycle and create high-end Kouture from recycled Junk, before showcasing their design and representing their school on stages across the world”. But truly, it’s more than that. It’s what Troy would have loved to have access to when he was a teenager: somewhere where struggling kids, bullied kids, introvert kids, outlier kids, can use their creativity to express and be seen for who they are. He shared moving stories of life transformation through the Junk Kouture program. Troy said, “No one changes the world by being like everyone else, and if we’re seen for who we are, it changes everything in the world”. His challenge is to get investments for a business where the product is not about consumption, but impact!

This was followed by a beautiful fashion show by several very creative teenagers who had won various competitions. Each costume and each girl had a meaningful story.

Junk Kouture Fashion Show

Heather White, Founder of One Green Thing, a mother of eco-engaged children, “helps tackle the mental health impacts of the climate crisis. After more than two decades leading environmental organizations […] she is bringing her know-how to help turn the anxiety and overwhelm of the climate emergency into daily, consistent, personalized action.” She shared the sad statistic “1 in 4 young people don’t want to have kids of their own, not by choice but because of climate anxiety”. She also quote Arianna Huffington “burned-out people will keep burning up the planet”. The feeling of powerlessness for such a massive global issue can paralyze us. How can we step out of paralysis (or denial), by adopting “One Green Thing” in our daily lives, one sustainable activity that gives us a sense of agency. By taking an assessment on their website, based on Myers-Briggs test, we can get a personalized recommendation of where to start.

Troy also shared the story of a young woman who was interviewed at a fashion show and was asked about her generation being “the voice of the future”. She replied “We are not the voice of the future, we are the voice of now!” We better be listening to the young generations, their needs, their fears, and their dreams, and act on them!

 

Dr. Raj Sisodia (FEMSA Distinguished University Professor of Conscious Enterprise and Chairman) & Dr. Neha Sangwan (Physician, CEO, Corporate Burnout, Mental Health, Wellness, Leadership, Communication, & Culture Transformation Expert)

This conversation was moderated by Elina Teboul (Former Lawyer, Speaker, and Leadership Expert Driving Business Success with Purpose and Social Impact).

WOHASU_Raj Sisodia-Neha SangwanBefore the talk started, we had the chance to learn how to dance in case we were ever invited to an Indian wedding! On some Bollywood music, we first had to hold the ceiling, then imagine the ceiling wasn’t flat, we then proceeded to screw a light bulb while petting the dog while spinning. Now I’m ready – I think… 😄

Dr. Sisodia had already inspired me last year in Como, as he shared stories on conscious capitalism. He wrote several books on the topic and made a strong and convincing point that we need to “rekindle the heroic purpose of business”. Everything we create, every business, every product needs a purpose: to bring more joy, to ensure the wellbeing of all stakeholders, and to embody conscious leadership and a conscious culture at work. He asked, “Do we have to hurt and kill people to make money?” – or maybe we can be inspired by his many examples of conscious capitalism and change how we do business.

He argued that our world revolves around profit, but all of life must be at the center of our universe and the rest to revolve around it! “We need red blood cells to live (money), but it’s not our purpose to produce red blood cells, nor is it the most important”.

Dr. Neha Sangwan was also present last year. As a medical doctor in the ER, she had burned out and is now on a quest to prevent burnout. This year, she invited us to

  • be mindful of the signs of burnout (exhaustion, cynicism, and ineffectiveness)
  • question if people, situations, or activities are draining us or energizing us (emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually)
  • know our body map (where do we feel our emotions, where is our body signaling us what is going on)
  • examine the top 3 repeated thoughts we have day-in-day-out
  • examing the top 5 people we spend time with or get inspired by (they feed our thoughts and influence our lifestyle)
  • know our values
  • define where we would take risks

Their common quest is to encourage humans and corporations to become whole, by combining a tough mind with a gentle heart, and by loving and caring for ourselves and others. It is also about embodying and balancing both masculine and feminine energies, which all of us carry regardless of our gender. Our world and our bodies need the feminine energy to take its rightful place. Think of yin-yang equilibrium.

 

Marc van Lokven (Founder & CEO Marvalous Health – Brain Trainer & Coach)

Former pilot and squadron commander in the Royal Netherlands Air Force, Marc van Lokven became interested in understanding and improving the brain’s capacity for treating information. Not only does he train and coach high-performance teams, but he also helps people “recover from neurological disorders, stress, burnout, depression, and traumatic brain injury”. He shared this mind-blowing information: “Statistics show that today we receive as much information in 1 day as what people received in their lifetime 700 years ago…” The issue with that is the struggle to get in flow and be efficient. Too much stress is too much data for our brain to process. But when we find peace of mind and have more space in the bucket of our brain, time stretches as if we could slow down everything = think faster and act faster => that’s flow.

More brain capacity => more resilience => more room to reflect => more in the flow => more inner peace => more empathy => more connected! That’s how we can “be the change you wish to see in the world” (Mahatma Ghandi).

He also shared Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius’ quote: “The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts”.Marc van Lokven

 

Ricardo Sunderland (Transformational Coach for Experienced & Emerging CEOs, Leadership Development Consultant at Egon Zehnder)

“If you follow your energy, you get a deeper connection to your purpose”. And how do you do that? It’s about connecting the brain with the heart and body. Three questions help us get in touch with that energy:

  • what gives you energy?
  • what takes away your energy?
  • where is it in your body?

The more we pay attention to the energy in our body, the more we follow its wisdom, the more its awareness expands and creates a life compass to our purpose.

“Your body will always speak your truth”.

 

Sarah Cunningham (Managing Director of the World Wellbeing Movement (WWM), Host of Working on Wellbeing podcast, Co-author of WWM Work Wellbeing Playbook, Behavioural Scientist)

Sarah CunninghamSarah Cunningham is a great storyteller, but what she shared wasn’t just a story but the hard truth about the ineffectiveness of individual wellbeing interventions in the workplace. An important study from 2023 by Dr. William Flemming showed that “while the existing evidence is generally positive about these interventions, disagreement is increasing because of concerns that individual-level interventions do not engage with working conditions”. Because companies tend to burden their employees with finding inner resources for their wellbeing, by providing interventions such as resilience training, mindfulness, and wellbeing apps. However these companies are not taking responsibility for their structural and organizational issues that are usually the source of stress, unwellness, and even burnout. Breathing exercises and mindfulness work, but they are not enough when facing unrealistic deadlines and workloads, and demanding leaders.

Companies need a holistic approach to wellbeing. Sarah talks about the framework in this video of her talk. She then shared a playbook created by the Work Wellbeing Movement, accessible to all. Link here -> Workplace wellbeing playbook.

 

Mei Xu (Founder @ Bluemefragrance, Fragrance Industry Expert, Successful Entrepreneur, Design and Innovation) & Dr. Paule Joseph (Chemosensory Scientist, Nurse, Bestseller Author, Educator, Philanthropist)

This interactive talk was about the surprising fact that smell impacts our wellbeing. Smells can transport us to memories, and reassure us in difficult times, but they also do much more than that, as can be seen on the image below.

 

Mei Xu and Paule Joseph

Mei Xu shared that Target stores in the US noticed a pattern: large orders of scented candles are locally placed after a disaster (tornados, floods, wildfires, etc.) when people have to leave their homes and everything behind. They buy scented candles to find comfort in their temporary shelter. Smells impacting wellbeing, who knew? Well, now we know and we can use that to our advantage. Bluemefragrance has developed smells (“functional fragrance backed by science”) eliciting inner states (happiness, balance, romance, spirituality, nostalgia, renew), which we all got to test on little cards during the talk. And yet, we can simply turn to our favorite fragrance whenever we need to relax, and consciously use the power of smells for our wellbeing.

 

Prof. Richard Layard (Emeritus Professor of Economics at London School of Economics & Political Science), Prof Jan-Emmanuel De Neve (Professor of Economics & Director, Wellbeing Research Centre, University of Oxford), Leoni Boyle (Graduate of the University of Oxford and the University of Cambridge), Dr Jose Marquez (Research Associate at the Wellbeing Research Centre)

WHR 2024As per the World Happiness Report (WHR)’s website, it is “a partnership of Gallup, the Oxford Wellbeing Research Centre, the UN Sustainable Development Solutions Network, and the WHR’s Editorial Board. The WHR reflects a worldwide demand for more attention to happiness and well-being as criteria for government policy. It reviews the state of happiness in the world today and shows how the science of happiness explains personal and national variations in happiness.” Its first edition was created in 2012. This year, it was released on the day of this talk, 20 March 2024, and presented at WOHASU by those behind this edition.

 

What’s new this year is they included teenagers and children and focused on generational differences, which give a very different picture. While Central Eastern Europe is climbing up the happiness ladder, the rich Western countries have young people less happy than older people, an unusual feature. In fact, some of the richest countries (USA, Germany) are falling down the ladder. Happiness is not just a “first-world” luxury. Or maybe it used to be for older generations. But now it’s different when looking at the ranking of young people under 30. This report not only looks at “happiness”, but it drills down to other contributing factors: social support, loneliness, negative emotions, benevolent acts, freedom to make choices, perceptions of corruption, healthy life expectancy at birth, etc.). A really interesting read!

 

Dr. Laurie Santos (Yale Professor, Scientist, Podcast Host) & Dr. Rangan Chatterjee (Host of Europe’s #1 Health and Wellbeing Podcast, BBC Media Doctor, Author)

Dr Santos & Dr ChatterjeeThis wasn’t a WOHASU talk like the others. This was a (partial) podcast recording that we participated in! (hear my cheering voice and clapping in the background?😆) Dr. Santos invited Dr. Chatterjee on her podcast “The Happiness Lab”. Dr. Chatterjee discussed the importance of happiness for health: “Happier people will generally make better lifestyle choices”. And also “groups of people with generally lower mood got 3 times more sick by COVID”. The good news is that happiness is a skill we can get better at, it is a three-legged stool:

  1. living in alignment with our values
  2. living in contentment (= calm & peace) by wanting what we have, instead of wanting what we don’t have and imagining it will bring us happiness
  3. having a sense of control over one’s life

A suggested exercise is to write down our own happy ending. Imagine being on your deathbed and reviewing your life. What are the 3 things you would want to have spent time on? Write them down. For example:

  • Spend quality time with loved ones -> define a weekly habit for it (e.g. at least 3 family dinners per week, 1 phone call to a friend, etc.)
  • Spend time having an impact -> define a weekly habit
  • Spend time on something I’m passionate about -> define a weekly habit

These weekly habits need to be written down and displayed visibly. They enable us to set boundaries to protect what truly matters. They enable us to feel that sense of control, alignment, contentment, and therefore happiness.

This podcast recording was going so well, and it was so interesting… BUT… we only got to hear half of it. I can’t wait to hear the rest when it comes out. Check it out here!

 

Amy Blankson (Keynote Speaker, Bestselling Author, Chief Evangelist for the Digital Wellness Institute) & AJ Hess (Staff Editor at Fast Company)

AJ Hess - Amy BlanksonThe talk titled “Digital balance: the missing metric in workplace happiness”, resonated with some of what we had heard before. We heard multiple speakers talk about burnout, stress, brain fatigue, etc. Dr. Murthy, the day before, mentioned the damage social media can do to children and young people, and Sarah Cunningham talked about the modern workplace demands that include being spammed with work notifications 24/7. Amy Blankson shared that since the pandemic, our time on screens has increased by 30%! Digital wellbeing is something companies and individuals need to be mindful of and actively support. It starts with an awareness from measured data. Companies can and should measure digital use (e.g. how many hours we spend in front of a screen) and implement what is needed to protect their employees’ health and wellbeing. And that’s also something we can do at our individual level, by checking our phone settings and app usage for example.

 

Nick Katsoris (Founder and President of the Loukoumi Make a Difference Foundation) & Nadim Saad (Founder & CEO of The Happy Confident Company, Children’s Wellbeing Advocate, Speaker, Best-Selling Author & Coach)

“Happiness for future generations panel”, moderated by Elisa Juarez (Social Impact Strategist, Inclusive Culture Architect, International Speaker, and Best-Selling Author).

Nick Katsoris presented his “Loukoumi Make a Difference Foundation“, and children’s books he’s written. He inspires children to do good deeds and to contribute to their communities. Through the foundation’s work, now over 130’000 children “learned that philanthropy can be fun and it significantly improves their self-esteem, mental health and overall happiness. ”

Nadim Saad is “preparing the next generation to make this world a better place”. He wrote the book “Kids Don’t Come With a Manual”, as he learned firsthand that no matter our level of academic education, parenting solely on our instinct is mostly about reproducing our childhood dynamics (not always the best). As he didn’t like seeing himself as that kind of parent, he studied child psychology and neuroscience, to better equip himself and others. He has rolled out programs for schools, with 5-10-minute tools that are easy to integrate in busy classrooms, all to foster “happy confident” kids, and therefore future adults. He also offers transformational tools for children, for parents, and for the whole family.

Nick Katsoris - Nadim Saad

 

Dr. Fred Luskin (Faculty Stanford Executive Program GSB, Director Stanford Forgiveness Projects)

Last year, I wrote the following: “I was extremely moved by Frederic Luskin’s deep (and witty) take on forgiveness, which he qualifies as “making peace when life sucks”. Healing our own heart and connecting to human existential suffering with compassion is how we can heal humanity and contribute to the world. Many tears in the audience…”

I could say exactly the same this year. Yet again it hit me right in the heart and broke it wide open. Not in a bad way, but in a cathartic and healing way. I have so much gratitude for his message and his work.

Last year’s talk is available on YouTube, and I can’t recommend it enough!

Here are some treasures from this year:

“Happiness is an experience of right now, not the future, not the rewriting of the past, but now, wanting what you have. Stress is wanting anything else.”

When we don’t forgive and hold a grudge or stay in victim attitude, it’s like saying “Yesterday sucked, so let’s make sure we ruin today too”.

Forgiveness is “giving up hope for a better past”, it is acceptance we can’t change the past, not acceptance of what has happened.

“We blame others for removing from us our trust, love, and innocence, … but no one can remove that from us. We can lose it for a while, but we have it in us, we own our parts. We can trust our heart to recover and no one can take that away from us.”

“The wound is eclipsing the sun (goodness, love, hope). We put the wound in front of us and think the sun is gone. But it’s always there hiding behind our wound.” Instead of holding the wound in front of us, we can choose to pay attention to human kindness and catalog the goodness and love we already have. We can ask ourselves “In the last few days, who’s been kind to me? where is the kindness? Then pick one of those instances and from the center of our heart say ‘thank you’ and let it go’.

He shared the beautiful and impactful poem by Jane Kenyon:

I got out of bed on two strong legs.

It might have been otherwise.

I ate cereal, sweet milk, ripe, flawless peach.

It might have been otherwise.

I took the dog uphill to the birch wood.

All morning I did the work I love.

At noon I lay down with my mate.

It might have been otherwise.

We ate dinner together at a table with silver candlesticks.

It might have been otherwise.

I slept in a bed in a room with paintings on the walls,

and planned another day just like this day.

But one day, I know,

it will be otherwise.

—Jane Kenyon

Suffering is inevitable in this life. Nothing is permanent. But we can choose kindness, trust, gratitude, and peace.

 

Ismael Cala (Life and Business Strategist, Bestselling Author, International Speaker and Entrepeneur)

Ismael Cala made us meditate throughout the conference, discuss with and hug our unknown seat neighbors, and dance ‘like bamboos’ on a song he wrote with the help of artificial intelligence. Then he shared the 11 principles of bamboo leaders (in the image below). Bamboos are known for being exceptionally strong (stronger than oaks), despite their flexibility.Ismael Cala

 

End of day 2

I returned home from WOHASU 2024 filled with awe and a renewed sense of purpose. I am thankful for the beautifully curated content by the WOHASU team, the wisdom and generosity of all the speakers, for our book “The Happiness of Coaching” being mentioned on stage, and for the most touching sense of belonging and community among the facilitators and participants.

This trip was also filled with meaningful friendships, mind-boggling synchronicities, soulful experiences and beauty. There will be happy ripples! Keep an eye on here…

 

Something magical happens at WOHASU, grab your next chance to go! Join the waiting list for WOHASU 2025 and be the first to know about all the exciting updates, inspiring speakers, and transformative experiences awaiting you!

Immerse yourself in a world of positivity, connection, and personal growth. Whether it’s engaging talks, interactive workshops, or meaningful connections, the summit offers something for everyone on the path to happiness and wellbeing.

See you at WOHASU 2025!

 

 

World Happiness Summit 2024

This annual conference brings together impressive global experts in the science of happiness, positive psychology, sustainability, economics, mindfulness, leadership, coaching, and communication. The style reminds me of TED talks, short 20-30-minute presentations, accessible to anyone. It targets those who are interested in personal development, wellbeing, those who care about the world and the people in it, and/or those who work with other people – so, everyone!

Originally based in Florida for the first four editions, they decided to come to Europe in 2023. So last year, I had the great chance to go to Como Italy for the fifth edition of the World Happiness Summit (WOHASU). Not only did I get to attend the two-day conference, but I was selected to be a Facilitator Coach for “Tribe Time”, helping participants bring the content to life and connect at a deeper level.

It’s funny because the theme that year was “Connection”. And I did exactly that! I connected with beautiful people, some of whom have become (very likely lifelong) friends. We subsequently trained in Positive Intelligence and wrote a book together. So there was no doubt I would go back to this year’s World Happiness Summit if it took place in Europe. And it did! So a week ago I headed to London UK for the sixth edition of WOHASU, where I got to meet again all my friends from last year.

This year’s theme was “Purpose”, which is the force behind intention and mission. It’s what motivates our life and its meaning, both personally and professionally. A subject I’m particularly passionate about!

 

Key takeaways from Day 1

I will share with you some of my favorite takeaways from the many and diverse speakers.

 

Dr. Arthur C. Brooks (Harvard Professor, Atlantic Columnist, Social Scientist specializing in happiness, Speaker)

Happiness is not a feeling, it’s a direction. Happiness is made of 3 macro-nutrients, which we can purposely feed:

  • Dr. Arthur C. BrooksEnjoyment = pleasure + people + memories (you need to combine all three to really enjoy something)
  • Satisfaction = joy after struggle. If we avoid struggle, we will never experience satisfaction.
  • Meaning = our life and our sense of identity need to feel coherent, significant, and have a purpose.

Some questions to ask ourselves:

  • Why am I alive? (find the transcendental reason for existence)
  • For what would I give my life today?

 

Alla Klymenko (Psychologist, Author, Motivational Speaker)

Alla KlymenkoWhat does it mean to feel lost? Being lost is a fabulous thing, it means you’re moving, you’re in the best place, and you can learn to trust.

  1. Realize it’s OK: work with the resistance instead of trying to get out of it.
  2. Bring your power back: when you know your ‘why’, pain is OK = connect to the bigger purpose
  3. Have fun with yourself: don’t take yourself too seriously
  4. Find the connections: connect with others, share your wildest dreams, and find out about theirs. You’re never alone.

 

Prof. Lord Richard Layard (Emeritus Professor of Economics at London School of Economics & Political Science)

Prof Layard quoteAs per his LinkedIn profile, “Richard Layard is an economist who thinks there is more to happiness than just the economy. In 2005 he wrote the best-selling book Happiness: Lessons from a New Science, translated into 20 languages, and in 2014 a follow-up on mental health called Thrive. He has had a huge influence in making psychological therapy more widely available in Britain’s National Health Service. But most important of all he is co-founder of Action for Happiness, an international movement to promote a happier way of living.”

Prof. Layard made the case for including wellbeing in global policies. He urged us to reach out to and influence all economic and political actors, to put wellbeing first. The United Nations is holding a Summit of the Future in September 2024, where Prof. Layard believes the Como Wellbeing Manifesto must be considered. You are welcome to sign this manifesto and share it if wellbeing matters to you.

Prof Layard 2

 

Dr. Michael F. Steger (Psychology Professor, Author, Speaker, Director of the Center for Meaning and Purpose)

Dr. Steger offered this perfect image: “Purpose is throwing an anchor into the future”. Purpose is not the destination; in fact, we may never reach our purpose. Instead, it is our guiding star, the energy, the momentum toward a destination. Purpose is the arch that connects and supports where we are to where we want to go.

Dr. Steger pupose bridge Dr Steger - Building purpose 2 Dr Steger - Building purpose 1

 

Dr. Vivek Murthy (19th and 21st US Surgeon General)

Dr. MurthyDr. Murthy’s inspiring talk was about the importance of purpose and connection in fostering happiness and building resilient communities. Social isolation and loneliness are an epidemic with heavy consequences on health and society. It is a societal issue and responsibility to “stitch back together the fabric of society”.

The most treasured resource we undervalue: friendship! “The friends that give you love are the most useful friends”.

A major concern is how social media is replacing person-to-person social connections, especially among children and young people. “What’s happening in social media is the equivalent of having children in cars that have no safety features and driving on roads with no speed limits, no traffic lights, and no rules whatsoever. And we’re telling them: ‘you know what, do your best – figure out how to manage it.’ It is insane if you think about it.”

 

Dr. Kelli Harding, MD (Psychiatrist, Public Health Doctor, Author, Medical Educator)

Dr. HardingShe shared this quote from Victor Frankl: “Those who have a why to live can bear with almost any how

A high life purpose is shown to lower inflammatory markers, increase cardiovascular health (72% reduction of stroke, 44% reduction of heart disease), and increase life expectancy.

How do we find purpose when we feel lost? The doctor’s remedy:

  • Take a dose of trust/faith
  • Take a dose of creativity
  • Take a dose of learning

 

Alberto Nobis (CEO of VTG) & Jackie Henry (Managing Partner People and Purpose at Deloitte UK)

These two corporate figures highlighted how much “profit with purpose leads to a thriving business”. Purpose is not just defining a nice catchphrase, but it must be a commitment, a moral agreement at all layers of the company.

How would you know your company is living its purpose?

  • Define KPIs and measure purpose
  • Measure it in leaders too
  • Measure customers’ happiness every day (your detractors will tell you exactly what you can do to improve)
  • Measure how much the interventions and innovations are coming from the bottom up, value that!

Nobis & Henry

 

LaFawn Davis (Environmental, Social & Governance Executive at Indeed)

This beautiful lady with the most stunning flowery dress offered us this quote: “Life can feel random and chaotic. Awareness, intentionality, and an unwavering sense of purpose are the foundations for hope in navigating your life’s journey”. To find harmonious alignment with our purpose, we have to define our purpose and how aligned we are in our personal and professional lives, with the following:

  • Authentic introspection
  • Know thyself, trust thyself
  • Progress over perfection

LaFawn Davis- Annan's quote

 

Dr. Amit Sood, MD (CEO at The Global Center for Resiliency and Wellbeing)

Dr. Sood

Such a fun and witty presentation from Dr. Sood! The average person has 150 pending tasks in their brain. We also get brain fatigue after 60-90 minutes on a task. Our brain is hungry for RUM, every 60-90 minutes, take “RUM” 😄

  • Rest
  • Uplifting emotions
  • Motivation

RUM practices: morning gratitude exercise, welcoming a cute 360 feedback from our kid, accepting one annoyance from our loved one, etc. Be creative!

 

Dr. Sandro Formica (Positive Organizational Psychology, Luxury Hospitality Human Sustainability, Chief Happiness Officer Certificate Program Director, Engagement & Retention Adviser)

Dr. Formica offered a generous and interactive workshop. The theme was “Discovering purpose at work: a journey to fulfillment”. And so we got to work, answering the questions below and sharing with our fellow participants.

  1. Dr. FormicaSelf-knowledge: who are you truly? is your purpose aligned with “your being” at work?
  2. Self-determination: what are you truly doing? how aligned are you at work and in general?
  3. Self-regulation: can you stay on purpose? what behaviors will support your purpose?
  4. Measure purpose: scope (narrow or wide), strength (the power manifested in thoughts, words, and deeds), awareness (are you and your colleagues constantly aware of it?)
  5. Take a final look at your purpose: what’s behind it?
    1. Your intention: to pursue it or not
    2. Your commitment: are you all in or not?
    3. The pro-social nature of your purpose: what impact do you want to have on others

Write it all down, and when you have a clear statement (starting with an action term + through the what and how), share it on your website, on LinkedIn, etc.

A synchronized aha-moment in the audience happened when Dr. Formica said “Spend your life or invest your life, choose wisely”!

 

End of day 1

As you can tell, day 1 was packed with so much insight and wisdom, punctuated with music and dancing thanks to workplace wellbeing campaigner DJ MoodSwing (Rob Stephenson), and this is not even a full review of everything and everyone. Stay tuned for the key takeaways of day 2…

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The global pandemic has been an incredibly challenging experience for all of humanity. Many of us have experienced loss, grief, and a range of difficulties related to our mental health, income, jobs, safety, social lives, and more.

However, amidst all this hardship, there have been moments of magic that we must acknowledge. At the beginning of the pandemic, there was an incredible stillness in the world as the usual crowds disappeared, and nature reclaimed the space. This stillness, although uncomfortable for those who were always on the go, gave us a gift to pause and reflect.

And then, something else emerged at the beginning of the pandemic that was truly beautiful – cooperation, support, and charity. People came together to help each other in various ways, from grocery shopping for vulnerable members of society to donating to those in need. There was a sense of connectedness that we had not experienced before, a sense that we were all in this together.

As many of us started to work from home, we realized that there were benefits to this new way of working, and it was something we could accommodate. A new rhythm and balance emerged, and we found that the pre-pandemic model of life was no longer the norm. We realized that we wanted more flexibility with our schedule and the continuation of remote work.

Purpose is the change of paradigm – people want meaning, fulfillment, and balance. We are no longer willing to sacrifice our physical and mental health, relationships, and passions for a job, a career, or the hope of one. The old way of thinking, where we were disposable and treated like numbers, no longer works.

To take purposeful action, there are three fundamentals that we must embrace.

Firstly, we must face the fear and recognize that it’s okay to feel anxious about humanity’s current state.

Secondly, we must become aware of our emotions and let them come to the surface. We must explore the meaning behind them and let them go.

Finally, we must shift the narrative and choose to purposefully rewrite our story.
It’s time to step up and be part of the solution. We must have confidence in our resilience and that of humanity as a whole. We must take part in creating contagious change by starting with ourselves. What actions can we take that will make a difference, no matter how small? It’s time to embrace our purpose, find our balance, and make meaningful choices that align with our values. When we do this, we can make a positive impact on the world and create a brighter future for all.