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Stack of yellow books with smiley face on cover, book title "The Happiness of Coaching: Inspiring Stories from the World’s Happiest Coaches", and an orchid behind

Once upon a time…

In 2023, coaches met at the World Happiness Summit (@wohasu) in Como, Italy. Coincidentally, that year’s theme was “connection”. And indeed, some wonderful connections were made. One inspiring and committed individual took this theme particularly to heart, Tabby Kerwin. She is a coach, trainer, best-selling author, and founder of the Mode for… publishing house, and she brought us together to co-write a book on the happiness of coaching.

 

Excitement and doubt

When Tabby offered me to contribute with a chapter, I got truly excited. What an amazing opportunity and experience! Then I sat with all the feelings and thoughts that emerged, it looked a bit like this:

🫣But I am not one of the world’s happiest coaches…

🫤What do I have to say about happiness?

😵‍💫What am I going to write about?

😅How can I bring value to the world through this chapter?

The sitting took a few months, during one of the hardest times of my life. And then suddenly 💡the inspiration all came pouring… and it was crystal clear, and it was always right inside me… and the chapter wrote itself in just a few hours. And it felt aligned and authentic, vulnerable and courageous, and worth existing (in my humble opinion)🥹

Right after submitting my chapter, I read this validating quote:

 

“You don’t have a leg up on becoming a happiness specialist by being blessed with natural well-being. On the contrary, naturally happy people almost never study happiness, because to them, it doesn’t seem like something one needs to study, or even think much about. It would be like studying air. The truth is that I write, speak, and teach about happiness precisely because it’s naturally hard for me, and I want more of it.” Arthur C. Brooks in the book “Build the life you want”

 

What to expect in this book

Let me tell you what this book is NOT about… toxic positivity, pink glasses, happy-go-lucky-pretend-life-is-always-so-happy. To the contrary! This book is filled with the personal and inspiring stories of 17 wonderful women, all professional coaches. And the common theme is “how they chose happiness in the face of adversity, grief, hardship, illness, and many other difficult paths”.

What I love about this book is how each chapter is unique and yet offers a facet to the universality of what we do as coaches and why we do it. A beautiful and coherent patchwork, where you will undoubtedly find gems that resonate with your own life… 💎

In this book, you’ll read personal and moving stories where coaching became a calling to heal oneself as much as helping the world. You will also get practical tools and perspective shifts you can directly apply in your life.

Most importantly, this book offers you the evidence that HAPPINESS can be CHOSEN despite – or thanks to – life’s adversities. If that’s too hard of a task on your own, you have the contact details of 17 professional coaches who will wholeheartedly support you on your journey.

A book to keep close by and go back to when in need of hope and action-taking…

 

Order your copy

To order your paperback or Kindle copy just about anywhere in the world, click here.

And once you’ve read it, let me know what you think… 😉

 

The Authors:
Albina Koch, Anna Boltenko, Céline Tönnemann, Dení Vázquez Ackermann, Dr. Julie Radlauer-Doerfler, L.M.H.C, Karen DeCesare Doll, Laurie Weisman, Luiza Belkova, Melissa Robinson Hussain, Molly Hetrick, Nicole Lehrer, Patricia Friberg, Sandie Norbron-Shaw, Tabby Kerwin, MAPP, Victoria Vitchenco. Foreword by Dr. Cree Scott

 

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt powerless and let someone else walk all over you? Maybe you’re stuck in a toxic relationship, or you have a boss who takes advantage of you. It’s easy to feel like there’s nothing you can do to change the situation, but the truth is that you have more power than you think. Here are six steps to help you reclaim your power and take control of your life.

Recognise the signs

The first step to reclaiming your power is to recognize the signs that someone is taking advantage of you. Are you constantly making compromises to keep the peace? Do you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells around this person? Are you afraid to speak up and express your needs and desires? If so, it’s time to take action.

Set boundaries

Once you’ve recognized the signs, the next step is to set boundaries. This means being clear about what you will and won’t tolerate. You don’t have to be aggressive or confrontational, but you do need to be firm. Let the person know that their behavior is not acceptable and that you won’t tolerate it any longer.

Get into Queen Energy

This means standing up for yourself and expressing your needs and desires in a clear and confident way. This can be difficult if you’re used to putting others first, but it’s important if you want to reclaim your power. Practice speaking up for yourself and saying no when you need to, gracefully.

Practice self-care

Reclaiming your power can be stressful and challenging, so it’s important to practice self-care. This means taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Make time for activities that make you feel good, such as creative hobbies, exercise, meditation, or spending time with loved ones and/or in nature.

Get support

Reclaiming your power is not something you have to do alone. Get support from friends, family, or a coach or therapist. Talking to someone can help you gain perspective and feel less alone in your struggles.

Celebrate your successes

Finally, it’s important to celebrate your successes. Reclaiming your power is not easy, and it’s important to acknowledge your progress and achievements along the way. Take time to celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.

Reclaiming your power is possible, even if you feel like you’re stuck in a disempowering loop. In fact it is possible, as I show you in my latest guide and workbook, which you can download here.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of problems that humanity is staring down the barrell of. Climate change, political unrest, social inequality, and the pandemic are just a few examples of the issues that can make us feel anxious and helpless. But as overwhelming as these issues may seem, we have the power to take purposeful action to make a difference. Let me share three simple steps that can help you move from anxiety to purposeful action.

Step 1: Face the Fear

The first step to taking action is to face our fears. Fear can paralyze us and keep us from taking action. Otherwise known as analysis paralysis, it can make us feel like we’re not good enough, that we don’t have the skills or resources to make a difference. But the truth is that everyone experiences fear, and the most successful people are the ones who learn to face and overcome it.

Start by taking small steps towards your goal, something manageable and build up from there. Another strategy is to focus on the positive outcomes of taking action. Vision in your mind what will happen if you succeed? What kind of impact can you have on the world? By focusing on the positive, you can start to shift your mindset from one of fear to one of purposeful action.

Step 2: Awareness & Release

The second step is to become aware of our emotions and learn to let them go. Emotions can be powerful drivers of our behaviour, but they can also be stumbling blocks that keep us from taking action. We often try to numb negative emotions, but the truth is that we can’t selectively numb them. If we try to push down negative emotions, they’ll inevitably come back up and hold us back.

One way to become aware of our emotions is to practice mindfulness. This can involve techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or simply taking a few moments to check in with ourselves. When we become more aware of our emotions, we can start to let them go. We can explore the meaning behind our emotions and release them in a healthy way. This process can be challenging, but it’s essential to taking purposeful action.

Step 3: Shift the Narrative

The third simple step is to shift our narrative from one of helplessness to one of empowered action. We often feel like we can’t make a difference in the world, but the truth is that we have more power than we realize. We may not be able to control outside circumstances, but we can choose how we respond to them. We can choose to rewrite our narrative and see the world in a different way. After all the world and all the rules in it or made up by someone no smarter than you.

Shifting our narrative is to find peace with the idea that life is likely to be 50% unpleasant experiences / 50% pleasant experiences. By accepting this, we can see the polarity in everything and recognize that where there is good there’s bad and vice versa. This can help us find a sense of purpose and meaning in our actions.

Finally, we can step up and take empowered actions that feel purposeful and meaningful. By being confident in our own resilience and humanity’s resilience, we can become part of the solution. We can take part in the contagious change that’s happening in the world, starting with ourselves. This could mean volunteering, donating to a cause, or simply spreading positivity and kindness in our daily interactions. Whatever actions we choose, they can make a difference.

I’m under no disillusions that taking action can be challenging and require courage, especially when we’re facing complex and overwhelming problems. But by facing our fears, becoming aware of our emotions, shifting our narrative, and stepping up to take purposeful action, we can make a difference in the world. It all starts with taking that first step.